Why Women Need To Stop Comparing Themselves To Each Other

For decades, generations of women have aspired to look like other women and girls. Some even went for drastic measures like getting plastic surgery to look like the women they idolize.

Some of them can’t get enough and keep going under the knife for that perfect result.

It’s time women stopped trying to be like other girls. Because of the low self-esteem so many women, including myself, have had, we don’t see ourselves the way others do.

As women, we often fixate on our perceived flaws, overlooking that we are each unique and beautiful. We all bring so much more to the table than just our physical appearance — our intelligence, creativity, and strength. Embracing our uniqueness is not just empowering but also liberating.

Social media and celebrities are to blame for this.
We all scroll through social media and see these stars and influencers looking picture-perfect with seemingly flawless lives. How could we not want what they have if that’s all we constantly see?

That’s why I don’t blame women for trying to copy what they see and hear. Our society feeds us ads, products, social media posts, and detox programs, just to name a few. So, I understand how all of this can trigger insecurities and the urge to change one’s appearance.

With this constant messaging, it’s clear that society doesn’t like women the way they are. We’re told to look a certain way, pursue certain career paths, have a certain body type, or hold certain opinions on wanting children. I could go on and on about why women compare themselves to the seemingly ideal picture of the woman our society wants us all to be.

As women, we desperately need to stop doing this.
It’s unhealthy, harms us, and puts damaging pressure on future generations of women. If we act like we don’t like ourselves and constantly want to alter our bodies, we can’t expect our daughters to love themselves as they are. After all, what younger generations see is what they absorb.

Once we stop trying to be other women, we will see our worth and realize we are enough. We all have so much potential. When we grasp this concept, it will lead to a domino effect in different aspects of our lives.

I know it’s hard to see and do right now, and you will fall back into the comparison game.
How do I know that? I still do it myself, which is okay because we are human, perfectly imperfect. We’re not robots, so we’re bound to struggle. It’s important to remember that it’s OK to have moments of weakness and stumble on this journey towards self-acceptance. What matters is that we keep moving forward.

I truly believe we can finally break these decades of trying to look and be like other people. We just have to realize we are enough, and whatever we do is enough. No one else in the world can do what you do; how badass is that? Remember, self-acceptance is not just a choice; it’s a journey, and you’re not alone.

Remember, no matter where you are at this stage in your life, you got this far by yourselves, no matter what size you are, whether you have kids or not, or whether you are married. You made it by being you and only you. So, keep going. It’s worth it. You are enough, just as you are. Embrace your individuality and reject harmful comparisons. You are unique, and that’s what makes you beautiful.