1. Absolute Monogamy is required for a successful and happy marriage. Double timing and dilemma will dissipate your resources, and eventually plunge your relationship in a hole.
2. The ideal period of Pre-marital courtship should last between 6 months and 2 years. Marriages need sufficient time to discover full traits and to build good friendship which is the marital foundation.
3. Parents of the prospective couples must be acquainted with their prospective children in-law. This builds for a minimum of future misunderstanding.
4. When there is a build up of regret in you, or a disagreement arises, seek the counsel of pastors who are well grounded in the principles of practical Christianity. Once upon a time, a pastor rescued a marriage whose near collapse was caused by a lady’s attitude of feeling sorry, and in the process considered herself to be victim of unfair bondage. She had misperceived her husband as the wrong man after the marriage was sealed.
5. Resist the tendency to transfer resentments and disappointments from a previous relationship into your marriage. Also, do not vent your spleen on your partner after a bad day in town.
6. Do not pervert and condition your anger for attachment to circumstances which do not represent actual danger to your marriage. Anger is an infantile behaviour. When tempted to anger, Jesus Christ overcame them by saying “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” Tame your anger immediately.
7. Deeper satisfactions and genuine happiness of a properly adjusted marriage develop slowly over a period of weeks, months, and even years. Do not assume that blissful experiences associated with happy married life would begin promptly on the eve or immediately after the wedding.
8. Sex is not the reason for true love between husband and wife; it is the product of true love. Sexual expression is not the objective of marriage. The husband and wife in happy matrimony never think of sexual expression as a duty or an obligation to be endured.
9. Probably it is in the happiest families that the least attention is attracted to sex. It is also probably true that the most attention is paid to questions of sex in those families that are insecure. Sexual expression represents the culmination of all the desirable features of the family situation.
10. A husband and wife may be poor in this world’s goods but exceedingly wealthy in the joys and satisfactions that come to them because of the good blending of their lives, spiritually, mentally, and physically. This nullifies the 21st century belief in some people that the foundations of marital success is cheaply the luxuries of life.