How to manifest love in easy steps

On our manifesting journeys, we all have different desires. Whether it’s money, a dream job, a dream body, or something else entirely, we’re all reaching for something that feels just out of grasp—until it isn’t.

One thing I’ve noticed is that so many people are trying to manifest that dream relationship with that dream person. We dive into the world of manifestation, trying to make sense of it, testing different techniques, and questioning if we’re doing it right. And honestly? It takes a while for it to truly click. But when it does, everything changes.

You look back at who you were before you understood manifestation and almost laugh at yourself. God, I was annoying. Constantly checking for signs, wondering when the love would come in, if this person would magically show up if something—anything—would happen.

I was in the car the other morning when Kelsea Ballerini’s song “Beg for Your Love” came on. I’ve always liked the song, but I used to think it was simply about refusing to beg for someone to love you. And, yes, to a degree, it is—but there’s so much more to it.

Listening to it again, I heard it differently. It wasn’t just about standing firm in your worth; it was about not betraying yourself in the process of wanting someone else. It’s about knowing what you deserve and refusing to settle for less.

How many of us have done the work—truly worked on ourselves—only to slip back into old habits when it comes to love? How many times have we ignored red flags, let our boundaries slide, or made excuses for someone just because we wanted them so badly?

But here’s the thing: wanting love is not the problem. The issue is when we compromise our own growth, our self-respect, and our own manifestations just to keep someone around.

Manifestation isn’t about chasing—it’s about being. It’s about stepping into the version of yourself that already has what you desire. It’s about embodying the confidence, the security, the self-worth that says: I don’t need to beg for love. I already have it.

That’s the energy. That’s what it means to know your worth. You don’t need to run after anything because what’s meant for you will come. You don’t need to grasp at love with desperate hands, hoping someone chooses you. Because when you fully step into the belief that you are already loved, already chosen, the world has no choice but to reflect that back to you.

I think back to when I first learned about manifestation. I spent so much time wondering when things would happen, if things would happen, and trying to force them to happen. But that’s not how it works. The moment I stopped chasing, the moment I truly became the version of myself who already had it, things started shifting.

Wanting something—someone—isn’t wrong. But not like this means we aren’t willing to accept it in a way that diminishes us. We aren’t willing to force something that should be freely given. We aren’t willing to accept half-love, inconsistent effort, or lukewarm feelings.

And honestly? That’s powerful.

The old version of me would have done anything to hold onto something that wasn’t meant for me. I would have settled, I would have overcompensated, I would have accepted less than I deserved just to have it. But I know better now.

I know that love is never something you have to beg for. It’s not something you have to chase. It’s not something you have to convince someone to give you. Love, real love, chooses you back.

And it shouldn’t be something you have to question. Love should never be a battle for the bare minimum. You should never have to remind someone to show up for you, to love you, to make you feel wanted. That’s not love—that’s settling.

When you’re manifesting love, the biggest lesson you learn is that it starts with you. You are the love you’ve been searching for. You are the one who sets the standard. You are the one who decides what you will and won’t accept.

And once you step into that?

The love you truly desire—the one that meets you where you are, that flows effortlessly, that doesn’t need to be chased—that’s the love that will show up.

Because you don’t have to beg for what’s already yours.