6 Things You Need To Do Now In Order To Find Yourself
If you want to know how to be happy with your life, you need to learn how to find yourself your true and real self.
Finding yourself means becoming aware of those around you, what makes you happy and what does not, and when you feel good about yourself and when you don’t.
They don’t teach this in school, so how are you to know how to do something you have never been taught?
“Who am I? If I don’t know who I am, what am I missing?”
To begin with, you are missing some of the best things about yourself!
What makes you happy? Sad? Fulfilled? Excited? Angry? Frustrated? Scared? Hits your funny bone? Makes you burst into tears? What kind of people do you want to be with and are good for you? How do you bring joy to your life? What makes you feel you really make a difference?
This list can go on and on, but I’m sure you get the drift of what you are missing when you don’t know how to be your true self.
So, don’t be so hard on yourself if you’re feeling lost or have no real identity. Look around you and inside yourself and you will begin to find your true self with the right process and map.
Here are 6 ways to find yourself so you can finally be happy.
1. Identify what affects you in a good way.
Notice what you are doing or who you are with when you feel good.
You may want to be around people who are kind, spiritual, playful, or maybe avid readers who love talking about their books. Or, you may prefer people who want to continue to grow. You may feel good when interacting with others who share the same hobbies, hopes, or dreams.
What makes you feel good might be people who laugh a lot. Making plans might feel better to you than not having plans or vice versa. Maybe certain music really touches you and makes you feel really good.
2. Know what affects you in a negative way.
Surrounding yourself with people or events that don’t fit you can easily drain you and put you in a bad mood. These outcomes indicate what does not fit your true self.
A consistently late friend can easily cause your mood to fall, especially when you’ve talked to them many times about being late and that this really bothers you. Really negative people can be very emotionally draining to be around.
Having to go somewhere without proper directions can cause you anxiety and create negative feelings about going to a particular event. Controlling people can cause you to feel stifled and annoyed that your needs don’t seem to matter.
The unknown may negatively affect you and you feel uncomfortable if plans are sketchy as to time, activities planned, or where the event will take place.
3. Think about what makes you happy and gives you joy.
Knowing what makes you happy is as important as knowing what doesn’t. You may feel joy being at the beach or looking at the Full Moon. Or little kids and puppies may bring you joy. Helping people in need may give joy.
The mountains or nature may bring you joy and happiness. Maybe you’re happier when you’re making a quilt or rebuilding an antique car. How often are you doing things that give you joy?
4. Think about what you admire about yourself.
Strengths, talents, and values do you know what these are for you?
Feeling good about yourself is different than just being happy. It means you recognize something that you do well or makes you feel like a good person inside.
It is a sense of feeling worthy and that you matter and can make a difference in this world. These are some of the things that shape your true self.
Maybe you are honest, a gifted painter, very intelligent, generous, or have other good qualities you admire.
Feeling good about yourself is also about liking who you are, how you treat others, what you are talented at doing, etc. So how do you feel about yourself? Do you like this version of your true and real self?