Signs You Have A Jealous Mother-In-Law & What To Do About It
Pop the champagne you got married! But now you might find yourself dealing with the many terrible traits of a jealous mother-in-law.
After a mother gives her precious baby away they might get jealous of all the love that they used to get from their son now being given to you and now they become resentful toward you.
However, it’s not your fault her son chose you he’s at a point in his life where he’s ready to give someone else his unconditional love.
There are lots of other reasons a mother-in-law could be jealous of her new daughter-in-law that could include feelings of abandonment and loss, her feeling like her son stopped talking to her when he met you, and lastly, she could even feel intimidated by you.
How do you know if your mother-in-law is jealous of you? Check by familiarizing yourself with these following jealous mother-in-law signs.
Signs your mother-in-law is jealous
She doesn’t respect your boundaries
A jealous mother-in-law will never respect your boundaries and you will find yourself constantly getting frustrated by this. She still thinks she makes the rules and doesn’t care about your opinion, wants or needs.
She shows this by speaking over you, not listening to you, discussing family plans without you, showing up completely unannounced, and frequently invading your privacy.
She tries to take time away from you and your husband.
She will always want to spend every second of every day talking and spending time with your husband. You might feel like she’s trying to alienate you and that she doesn’t respect your time or relationship with her son.
Of course, she will play the role of the victim by saying she just wants to spend quality time with him. However, there is a line here, and now, you both know she’s crossed it.
She talks to your husband behind your back
It’s not like your partner has to tell you everything he talks about with his mother. However, he should tell you if she is talking about you behind your back, as it’s not fair to you.
You can’t have a say in a conversation where you aren’t included plus, this is clearly her way of deliberately trying to put you in the worst light possible in front of your husband.
There’s another trust level between you and your partner versus the trust between them and their mother.
Usually, the bond between you and your partner is stronger, as it’s normal to complain about parents with your significant others.
This could potentially create a rift between you and your mother-in-law that could become a very complicated, sticky situation down the road.
she speaks to you through her son
This is called triangulating someone. She speaks to you through her son because she doesn’t respect you enough to talk to you face-to-face.
This can be exasperating while simultaneously causing you to do the same thing in response, because of the petty nature of this behavior that results from triangulating.
She could further separate you and her son by doing this, as it puts stress on all three of you.
she drives a wedge between you and her son
Some mothers-in-law can be very toxic. They will literally do whatever they can to drive as much distance between you and her son so that you two will arrive at an impasse and simply want to give up.
she pits you against your own husband
If she dislikes you or is jealous of all the time you’re spending with her son, a toxic mother-in-law will use every manipulative trick up her sleeve to pit you and her son against each other.
She may also try to spark arguments between the two of you, and this could result in a divide between the two of you, as well as you and your mother-in-law.