Love is an emotion, but people do show signs of being in love.
You can tell if someone is in love with you by the things they do for you, or the words they say, and how they behave with you.
1. Love is generous
In a truly loving relationship, we give to the other without an expectation of return. We don’t keep an account of who did what for the other. Giving pleasure to our partner gives us pleasure, too.
2. We feel what our partner feels
The true meaning of love is to feel a sense of joy when we see our partner happy. When we see that they are sad or depressed, we feel their blue mood, too. With love comes empathy for the other person’s emotional state.
3. Love means compromise
The real meaning of love in a relationship is to willfully compromise your needs to accommodate your partner’s needs or desires.
But we don’t sacrifice our self in doing this, nor should the other person require us to sacrifice our self for their gain. That’s not what love is all about in a relationship; that’s control and abuse.
4. Respect and kindness
What is true love?
Well, when we love, we act respectfully and kindly towards each other.
We do not intentionally hurt or denigrate our partners. When we talk about them in their absence, it is with such warmth that the listeners can hear the love in our words. We do not criticize our partners behind their backs.
5. We act with ethics and morals
Our love for the other person enables us to act morally and ethically, both with them and in our community. Their presence in our life makes us want to be better people so that they will continue to admire us.
6. We guard each other’s solitude
With love, we never feel lonely, even when alone. The very thought of the other person makes us feel as if we have a guardian angel with us at all times.
7. Their success is yours as well
What is true love in a relationship?
When our partner succeeds at something after a long effort, we beam with joy as if we were the winner, too. There is no feeling of jealousy or competition, just pure pleasure at seeing our beloved’s success.
8. They are always on our mind
Even when separated for work, travel, or other commitments, our thoughts drift towards them and what they might be doing “right now.”
9. Sexual intimacy deepens
With love, sex becomes sacred. Different from the early days, our lovemaking now is deep and holy, a true joining of bodies and minds.
10. We feel safe
The presence of love in the relationship allows us to feel protected and safe as if the other person is a safe harbor for us to come home to. With them, we feel a sense of security and stability.
11. We feel seen and heard
Our partner sees us for who we are and still loves us. We can show all our sides, positive and negative, and receive their love unconditionally.
They know who we are at our core. Love allows us to bare our souls and feel grace in return.
12. Love helps fight without fear
What is love all about? It is a sense of security.
If we are secure in our love relationship, we know we can argue and that it will not break us apart. We agree to disagree, and we don’t hold grudges for too long because we don’t like to hold bad feelings towards our partner.